The Definition of Divorce

The Definition of Divorce:
1. The legal dissolution of a marriage by a Court or other competent body.
2. The FIRST day of the rest of your life.
Someone sent me this today, it was on one of those little wooden signs you see everywhere these days but, it really got me thinking.
I see divorce day in and day out, and there are days where you can become desensitized to the pain surrounding you. I have come to learn that at times it becomes a necessity. But that little wooden plaque has burrowed into all my thoughts. This blog is usually informational, focused on what to do, how to do it, while hopefully throwing in a little humor. But, getting a divorce is not humorous when you are the one enduring the process. Think of some of the terms people use to describe divorce; dissolve, break-up, split up, separate, part, split, disunite. They all sound so unpleasant don’t they? Well, if you are in the process of a divorce you know it to be true. Divorce is the death of a dream, a hope, a promise. You must mourn and to get to the end you have to start at the beginning. You need to feel the stages of grief, denial, isolation, anger, bargaining, depression and finally acceptance.  Grieving for the marriage you are now losing is natural whether by choice or not. Most of us do not get married thinking we will ever get divorced, we don’t have children imagining that we will one day fight over them. We imagine sunshine , rainbows and walking into the sunset together. Divorce alters every one of those dreams. You will however wake up one day and realize you are breathing easier, you are smiling, you are not consumed with negativity, and that you found the person who was always inside of you waiting to be happy, ready to start over and that is when you will realize it is the FIRST day of the rest of your life. My hope is that each of you reach that day and smile.